Dear friends and family, and anyone else who has found there way here,
I have been asked, and I am super excited, to write a monthly article for the Clovis News Journals, new Parenting segment along with my mother. Each and every month we will be given a topic to write on, and I am so excited to do this.
However, in my articles I would love to not only give my view on the subject matter, but also provide the objective view. I need you for this. I would really love it if you would take the time to fill out the poll, and leave a comment either here, or email me at mjpdruba@yahoo.com. Your opinion matters. I want your view, how you feel about it, what your choice was, why you made that decision, and so on. Ready?????
Here we are!
The subject is, as stated below. What is an appropriate age to pierce a girls ears?
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4 comments:
I have had many people ask me why I didn't have my daughters ears pierced when she was a baby. Honestly, I think that is an "alteration" to her body and I want her to come to me when she is old enough to be able to tell me herself that she wants to have her ears pierced.
I am happy that you have been given the opportunity to write for the CNJ :)
First, I don't think moms wanting their dd's ears pierced early are "mean mommies". Admittedly, I know a lot of people have strong feelings when to pierce a child's ear. "Let them decide" is being replaced by parental decision when mommy intuition knows, "earlier is better" from either personal or friend's experiences of unpleasant childhood ear piercing. I think it just depends on your own personal choice whether or not you wish your baby or little girl to have pierced ears. Some feel perceived gender of their child is important while others find it a cultural tradition where all infant girls have pierced ears.
Second,I pierced our oldest daughter's ears when she was six weeks old and our youngest at just days old. We found an experienced individual where they specialized in infant piercing following some suggestions from our ped who encouraged me to go ahead early.She had her dd's done at Piercing Pagoda and recommended them due to their professional training and experience with infant ear piercing.
Third, my mom pierced my ears when I was 2 days old as and I've loved it....I think earrings on little girls are adorable! If you don't know how she'd look at any age, then hold up a pair of your studs to your daughters ear and decide for yourself. Many moms including myself like the look of earrings on babies and little girls for no specific reason, but like how light plays off a simple gold ball on a bald baby girl or small gold hoop poking through the hair of a toddler. Cerebrally, as mothers of girls of all ages, we know it celebrates their femaleness and femininity. After all, they are little girls, right?
Lastly, I think moms who ask others opinions really down deep have their mommy intuition telling them earlier is better to pierce your dd's ears when mommy cares for them. Of course, the hard question for moms with little baby girls is once the decision is made is when should I do it? I'd say go ahead when your're ready to care for them and do it before they are aware of and will allow you to care for them properly. This is usually before a year or so. However, once done, you will have given your dd the "gift of pierced ears" and she'll thank you later. When all the other girls in preschool see her with earrings, promise they will be envious of you being such a smart mommy for doing it when you could care for them and she didn't remember having them done.
If any moms are unsure, or if you would like our ped's suggestions for moms having their dd's ears pierced, then write me an e-mail.
Amy
Amyswor@hotmail.com
Piercing a child's ears because they look cute is hardly a reason to do it without their consent. It brings up the topic f circumcision. If a parent thinks it is better for their son's penis to be circumcised is that an adequate reason to surgically remove a part of their body? I am not putting ear piercing and circumcision in the same category, however, I do believe they share traits. We are invading their body for our own reasons-- not theirs. That is an important distinction to make.
Also just because a pediatrician says something is okay to do does NOT make it a good choice. After all, these are the same people who readily inject our BABIES with toxic chemicals--- yes, vaccines are toxic, look at their ingredients.
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